I’m starting to get used to living at home, although that doesn’t make it easy. I try to give my parents their space and keep a certain amount of physical distance in order to keep my sanity. For the past five years of post-secondary education I have lived away from home and have learned to live a somewhat independent life. I discovered how I liked to run my life and the way I liked to organize things. Moving back home definitely wasn’t easy since I was expected to do things the same way my parents did them.
Last night I went to talk to my mom since earlier she was a little pissed that I hadn’t done the dishes. I told her that we need to make a house schedule so I know what exactly is expected of me within a time frame – that’s how I function efficiently. My mother countered my suggestion by telling me that everyone should do things when they see that things need to be done – clearly, that’s what works for her. She then shot down my suggestion that we should come to a happy medium. I don’t know why she still thinks that everyone should function they way she does, especially after 25 years of it never working. My dad is not like her at all for organization. I think he’s more like me since he works better with a time frame. And yet, rather than recognizing that other people have different needs, she nags people in hopes they will conform to her ideal living situation. WTF? After 25 years, why can’t she learn?
So I’ve decided to do my own things and make my own schedule. I’m hoping that physical distance will limit my exposure to nagging.
